Non Indians often think why Indians make such fuss about marriage, that is the groom or bride they are choosing, or why parents play such a major role in choosing the bride or groom.
Unlike most of the western countries Indian families are deeply knitted to each other, which I think is a very wise thing. Because my mother was really clumsy and if those aunties, cousin sisters and sister in laws were not around to teach me the way of world I would have been in quite a mess!
Here every bride or groom becomes a part of the entire family, especially her in laws, their siblings and of course her husband’s siblings. In my family we were taught to treat our cousins as our own brother/sisters- so you can understand the depth of these relationships in India. That is why marriage is a complex affair, because if its misfit the entire family suffers and often gets shattered to pieces.
Just imagine a wolf being invited into a herd of lambs and the law forces the lambs to let the wolf stay with them, just because she is their legally married daughter in law, and one howl from her will unleash fury of law on the entire family, what will happen? The entire lamb family will become wolf meal! I have seen this happen one too many times, the boy marries a shrewd, greedy girl and the girl ruins the entire family using the law as her shield.
That is why Indian parents make such a fuss about their daughter in laws especially! Because after all, she will be the part of their everyday life after marriage, influencing, touching everything. If we look from this angle, that fuss is a little forgivable! Is not it?